I spend a majority of my time completely alone. A few weekends ago, I did the opposite; I went on a trip with my girlfriend and 16 other friends, and spent each moment in their presence for 72 hours. It’s been years since I spent time with so many people for so long. And surprisingly, it was great!
It was a strange and lovely feeling to be surrounded by friends. I know many of them well, and had the opportunity to meet a few others. Every single person was wonderful, even with such different backgrounds, attitudes, and personalities—Maria never stifles a laugh, Wells is full of dry, weird humor, Thanos is peaceful and steady; Julianna and Nick are so loving. There was a quiet wisdom in every person’s beauty and individuality.
I love spending time by myself. Being around other people too much always makes me feel tired and stretched thin; so, nine times out of ten, I choose to spend my free time in solitude. Between reading, practicing a skill, or playing a video game—and a dozen other hobbies—I never feel lonely. My time alone is my favorite kind of time by far.
So it was especially sobering when I said goodbye to everyone and realized I would miss them all greatly. Instead of feeling drained, I felt replenished. I did not realize how empty I had been until I filled myself with their company. It was such a strong and foreign feeling that it moved me to write.
Now I sit alone again.
Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art… It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things which give value to survival.”
― C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves
“I think if I’ve learned anything about friendship, it’s to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don’t walk away, don’t be distracted, don’t be too busy or tired, don’t take them for granted. Friends are part of the glue that holds life and faith together. Powerful stuff.” ― Jon Katz
“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche